Emotions…they are such a fragile embodiment of our inner thoughts that makes us undeniably human. Different people, with a variety of personalities and traits express emotions in their own way. Some are incredibly expressive with their emotions as they work to reflect what they feel in every situation. Some people create different personas in their head of their ideal person and personalize each character with different sensational responses depending on their mood. Then there are those who are truthfully indifferent and insensitive, sometimes even ignorant, to others’ feelings as well as their own. One can experience an emotion intensely and be unable to express their thoughts and vehemence on a matter.
Being acquainted with the demons in our head—or merely reflections of our own multifaceted identity, we see them as enigmatic entities that are familiar yet somehow ironically distinct from what we truly are; that is something that most of us, if not all of us, can agree upon. Although we know that it is unhealthy, we are still accustomed to tie a leash around our neck, chain up and cage away our minds and emotions solely because some of us think that those who express their emotions freely and without refrain are ticking time bombs… waiting for the minutes to pass by… always on the edge… ready for the explosion.
However volatile and unpredictable the burst of expression is, sometimes we just have to let it out. But, with regard to those who are quiet, reserved and consider themselves introverts, you are by no means obligated to express your thoughts and emotions verbally as there are other ways of doing so when your social ability and speech skills fail you. That doesn’t mean that you have failed yourself in these situations, it is who you are and you should embrace it and find other outlets for expression.
I express my deep feelings and essentially myself through writing. I have found that written letters that are jumbled up to form hidden meanings behind the superficial composition can be both apparent and reticent depending on the reader’s perspective. Writing, as I see it, has become a way of escaping facing what I am very much aware of; the existence of my other half that lives outside my mind palace. From a reserved person’s point of view, the words that I have formed inside my mind are easily written out rather than spoken aloud. Most of the times, I would consider my poems a soliloquy, never a display to everyone. It is not suited to everyone’s preference, but one can always try it out.
The question still begs why I say that writing can be used as a form of escapism.
“Writing is a form of therapy; sometimes I wonder how all those who do not write, compose, or paint can manage to escape the madness, melancholia, the panic and fear which is inherent in a human situation.”― Graham Greene, Ways of Escape
Through writing, it creates a bond or a relationship between the writer and the acceptance of themselves in any state or situation. One creates a harmonious connection that serves primarily to make peace with oneself in the form of written agreement, but not necessarily a formal constitution. It is through pure creativity and imagination which suits the writer’s way of thinking as their mind’s expression is not limited to one kind of writing, like poetry, but to any form of text such as stories, quotes, and lyrics.
There are no limitations or restrictions for any writers to let out their fantasies, desires and impulses onto a piece of paper or a written document. We can all agree that sometimes, if not most of the time, we realize how harsh and cruel the reality of our lives can be. Due to this, we tend to imagine a different reality that is much better than the current lives that we are living in. Writing provides the freedom of living in those reveries; staying in them for as long as those stories of our own are not being erased and continue, allowing us our own state of mind and laid out world. In addition, from the conception to the denouement of our stories they are significantly idiosyncratic, thus judgments and critics from others are worth nothing compared to what you have to say and express uniquely through writing.
All in all, written communication is subjective and not everyone prefers writing to disclose their personal thoughts and emotional responses. With that being said, keeping everything to ourselves can be dangerous to the well-being of our health or mental condition in particular. Explore the various ways of expression and find what works for you!
Written by Ungku Luqman Arifin
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